Conversations with JT

Every night when TC and I tuck JT in bed we pray. Although JT has problems following and wants to say them VERY fast. Tonight was no different and I told JT to slow down and follow me (TC is still at work). I explained he follows me and when he's in school he follows along with his teacher when she's praying, just like how we follows Pastor at church. I also said when he becomes a dad his kids will follow him when he prays.

JT says 'But they're not going to listen to me!'

Happy Birthday, JT

Four years old! I can't believe JT is 4 years old today.

I also think about S today. I wonder if she thinks of JT. If she starts getting anxious for our pictures and letter as we send them around the end of July. Is she OK with her decision. Is she happy with how we are raising JT? Will she ever want to meet us?

So many questions go through my mind but I just concentrate on watching JT have the time of his life on his birthday.

We went and saw Toy Story 3 today. Great movie!! JT was enthralled. He loved it. We opened presents had tacos for supper and had a Toy Story cake with ice cream. He is now tucked in bed with his new toys close at hand. (Like the new Cars laptop from A&B).

I am exhausted and ready for bed.

Conversations with JT

We were getting ready to make supper tonight and TC was asking me if I would cook the asparagus. This is how the conversation unfolded.

TC (speaking to me): Can I trust you to cook these? (He was holding the bag of asparagus)

ME: Are you sure you can trust me with those?

JT: You can trust me that I'm not going to eat those.


JT got sent to the corner and I got a stern look from TC because I was laughing so hard.

Boys vs Girls

Today JT and I went to his friend L's house. They both go to the same daycare and are the best of buds. It went well given the fact they are young. But wow, the differences stood out.

I love visiting with my friend's especially those who have girls. Of course our house is littered with cars, trucks, trains, and lots of activity. L's room was full of pink, tinker bell, and lots of frilly stuff. JT someone managed to find the only 'boy' toys she had. Which of course were Barbie cars, motorcycles, and a couple baby toys he use to have too. He did find a couple trains and a car to play with and pretty much had those glued to his hand most of the afternoon.

L wanted to put stickers on this jewelry box she got as a birthday gift. JT did not. L wanted to color. JT did not. L wanted JT to play a game with her. That lasted for 30 seconds. L wanted to play in her tinkerbell tent. JT did...he was inside pushing the walls down so it would fall over. L was NOT happy. Of course they fought a few times. That's to be expected for a 4 year old and an almost 4 year old.

I'm all for JT having friends who are girls. But after watching the different personalities I'm wondering if maybe we should wait before having another get together (with a girl). We couldn't leave those two alone to play as JT won't sit down and play (And L was getting pretty frustrated). When JT is around other boys I can let him play and he'll be fine. He is active like other boys and they usually are banging cars and trucks around. He isn't interested in sitting still for a game, or coloring for a long period of time. I don't want him to feel like I'm forcing him to play with someone, even if it is a friend, when his personality isn't wired to sit still and play quietly.

I'm at a loss on what to do.

A Potty?

Little Man and I went to Target yesterday. I decided to get him some Kandoo flushable wipes so he can wipe himself in the bathroom since he wants to be so independent.

We get it home, I put it in the bathroom, open it and show Little Man how to use it. He starts opening and closing it and laughing and I told him not to do that as it will break it. He laughs and said 'He wants to show me somethim (something)'. I said OK. He opened it, laughs, and said 'Look! It looks like a potty!'

I do have to admit with the lid open the Kandoo container does in fact look like a potty.

A sibling

Little Man needs a sibling...BAD. If we're in the 'baby's' room he'll ask me if he can play with 'her' when she isn't in the crib. The toys in the room are also 'her's'. He has also been saying his teddy bear is his sister the past few weeks. I try to tell him that his teddy isn't his sister. He doesn't have a sister yet but he always argues that teddy is indeed his sister.

Here is another issue, a sister. Not a brother, but a sister. I keep telling him it is up to God to bless us with a baby boy or girl. I tell him if he really would like a sister he needs to pray to God and ask for one. He will fold his hands and with my help pray for a sister (I of course, wouldn't have him full out pray for a sister but if it's in God's will he would like a sister.).

But this has me thinking. Should we go for it and check we only want a girl on our adoption paperwork? I know we can choose and we (OK, me) chose that we really shouldn't choose between a boy and girl but leave it up to God. But Daddy REALLY wants a daughter this time around (And no, we do not talk about this with Little Man. He has done all this sister wanting on his own.).

Is this God's way of saying our next child is a girl? That we should go for it and only check girl? I fear that if we do we'll be waiting another 2 years. I don't know if I can handle that long of a wait again.

I am unsure what to do. If I had my way I would have started the process (Ok, fine, I would be pregnant) months ago...

Joys of Mommyhood

Well I get to have fun this weekend. Little Man has been having tummy issues and abdominal pain the past month or so. I took him to the doctor yesterday and he is going to run some tests which require a poop sample. We tried to see if Little Man would go at the doctor office but that didn't happen. So this weekend I get to go fishing for poo.

There's just one problem. Mr. Independent likes to go to the bathroom without telling us especially when he poops. We have tried to no avail to explain to him how we appreciate him wanting to do things himself this is just one thing he cannot. He knows that the tests will help the doctor find out what is making his tummy hurt.

I'm just not looking forward to fishing. This is part of the mommy duties they don't tell you about. I guess it's in the fine print somewhere.

I better add rubber gloves to my grocery list.

Quiet day

Little Man and I stayed home from work and daycare today. Little Man has had diarrhea for 6 days and I was worried he would pass this on to the other kids at daycare. Even though Ms. S. is wonderful and said she would still take him. We are having a quiet day. He’s colored, played with play-doh and even watched me clean the bathroom and put clothes away. When he wakes up from a nap we’re going to watch a movie.

I’m hoping we’ll have a big announcement to announce soon. Although if you are from Adoption Talk or friends of Daddy on Facebook you might have seen and heard what is possibly going to happen. We are so excited and petrified all at the same time.

It’s hard to believe next week is Thanksgiving. This past year really has flown by. We are staying home for Thanksgiving and will enjoy lots of turkey and food maybe a nap or 2. I am off that day and the day after. I’m looking forward to sleeping in and putting up the tree. Due to possible announcement we won’t be decorating as much.

I better go before I give away too much. 

Out of the mouth of babes

Mommy - 'Little Man, do you want a brother or a boat?'

Little Man 'A boat.'

:)

Little Sponge but who's pouring the water?

Daddy told me today Little Man told him that Divorce is between a mommy and a daddy.

WHAT?! Where did he learn that? We don't watch any news, or other unkid friendly shows around him. We also do NOT talk about divorce around him, about anyone going through it. So where is he picking this up?

I'm starting to wonder how much is on during commercials when he watches the Disney Channel while Daddy takes a shower in the mornings during the week and Saturday mornings. He has asked to watch Hannah Montana on many occasions. Yeah, that's all I need my 3 year old watching some over acting, drama, tween TV show. I'm thinking we may have to go to strictly DVD's (Veggie Tales, Cars, Jungle Book, Thomas, etc).

He is too smart for his own good.

Potty advice from a toddler

Little Man and I were getting ready to leave so we could stop by our adoption agency and drop off our formal application for adoption #2. (EEEEEeeeee!!!)

Little Man went potty first and I told him to throw his pull up (he had just woken up from a nap) away while I go to the bathroom. He happily runs out of the bathroom and then yells...

'Don't forget to hold your wee-wee down!'

Um...we'll need to have an anatomy lesson when he's older. ;)

2 weeks 1 day

I'm in denial. In 2 weeks and 1 day Little Man turns 3. 3!! Where is the time going?

As sad as I am that my baby, turned toddler, is on his way to be a little boy, I am ecstatic that God has placed this precious child in our care. Words can't discribe how happy he makes us (and sometimes frustrates us). Watching him grow, he can walk around the bed and see over it vs us only being able to see the top of his head. Watching him learn many different things. He loves to watch car shows on TV with Daddy and asked me yesterday if the show I was watching were building cars. Sorry, nope, they were making a cake.

He is now in the 'I do it!' phase. Pulling down his underwear, putting it on. Brusing his teeth, hair, picking out his clothes and putting his stuffed animals on his bed.

Speaking of his stuffed animals this is where I the mom come in. He's turning into me. How can I put this lightly. He's getting...picky. For example, I HAVE to make my and Jeff's bed. The sheets have to be even on each side, no bumps or anything sticking up. The blankets have to be put on one by one and again even on each side. When I go to bed everything has to be...'perfect'. The sheets, the blankets and my pillow. I don't know how but that is rubbing off on Little Man. I tucked him in bed, gave him a kiss and hug (and he in turn) and walked out. A few seconds later he was screaming. I run in and he cries 'The blanket is messy. Fix it!' Oh, oh. I've created a monster. This hasn't happened once but a few times.

I also love when I start singing he chimes in. It's fun listening him try to sing what I'm singing. I love it when he makes up his own songs.

The itsy bitsy spider...is scary...down come the rain...

I about lost it with that song. Yes spiders are scary.

Now...I better hurry up and figure out what I'm going to do for his birthday cake.

Converstations with Little Man

Mommy: Who's S?

Little Man: S?

Mommy: Yes, who is S?

Little Man: She's my birthday mom.

Mommy: She's what?

Little Man: She's my birthday mom.

Mommy: *smiles* Yes, yes, she is.

We've been infested...

With monsters under the bed. I've always thought this was something TV and movies made up and kids really aren't afraid of monsters under the bed. Well Little Man is. He woke up last night crying about the monster under his bed. So I looked under the bed and as sternly as I could told that monster to 'Go Away'. Little Man seemed relieved and went back to bed.

Now...I hope the monster didn't crawl under my bed...

No more pull ups

Little Man is wearing these under these from now on. No I didn't buy these on line. You can get them cheaper at Target in the baby section. When he is wearing these he will actually tell us when he has to go pee. It may be after he's peed in them but now he can feel the wetness.

Everytime he sits on the potty he goes. He even went into the bathroom this morning pulled down his pants and pull up and went potty. (After I made the comment to him if he was so good at being able to open a container of yogurt why couldn't he go potty by himself.)

He is getting to be very independant and such a big helper. He loves to set the table, help with laundry, comb his own hair and brush his teeth, although he has put his toothbrush somewhere and we can't find it. Good thing I keep an extra one on hand.

A few days ago he fell and landed on this plastic bridge. The top of the bridge hit him under the eye and he now has a lovely shiner. It's slowly healing and I'm hoping it's gone by June 22nd. We are getting our pictures taken. I realized it's been over a year since we've had his picture professionally taken. (I wasn't in a hurry last year as money was a bit tight.) So I emailed a fellow blogger. I'm sure you've all heard of her. Mckmama will be doing our photoshoot. I'm sure you've heard about her sweet boy, Stellan. If not go check out her blog and read about it. As a fellow heart patient Stellan has a special place in my heart. Plus Mckmama is a wonderful photographer and lives only a short distance from us. I'm so very excited and now I need to go shopping to coordinate our outfits. :D Yes she will be doing a family portrait along with ones of just Little Man.

I will let you know when our proofs are ready and if your interested send me an email or post a comment and I will send you the link. I won't be posting it on here for privacy reasons.

Now I'm off to have lunch and enjoy a quiet afternoon while Little Man naps.

Conversations with Little Man

(We finished saying his bedtime prayers and like we do every night we pray for S. This conversation happened right after we said Amen.)

Little Man: I'm adopted.

Mommy: Yes you are.

Little Man: Maria (she's our hairstylist) is adopted.

Mommy: Yes she is.

Little Man: (Holds up his stuffed dog) Is Max adopted?

Mommy: Yes we adopted Max into our family.

Little Man: Teddy?

Mom: Yes

LM: Tiger?

Mom: Yes

LM: My bed?

Mom: No, your bed isn't adopted.

Little Man thinks for a little bit.

LM: Is Andrea adopted? (She's a friend of ours)

Mom: No, Andrea isn't adopted.

LM: She's not?

Mom: No, there are some people who are adopted. Like you and Malia. And some who aren't, like Andrea. Because that's the way God planned it.

LM: Neat.


Yes, Little Man that is very neat.

Grapes

We have a bowl of grapes on the bottom shelf in our refrigerator for Little Man. He knows he needs to ask and he can go and get a couple grapes. Well last night right before I was going to tuck him into bed he walked into the livingroom and his cheeks were stuffed. I told him to spit it out and a proceeded to spit out 6 grapes. Yikes! I'm amazed he didn't choke.

Independant

There is a new phrase being said around our house. I bet you can guess who says it.

Yep, Little Man. And the phrase is 'I can do it All.By.My.Self!'

I tried picking a shirt out for Little Man to wear and I heard the pharse 'I can do it All by myself.' Okee dokee. I was going to help him get his bib on and heard him say 'I can do it all by myself!'

When I put his conditioner in his hair 'I can do it all by myself!'

So you can bet he now picks out his own shirt and socks every morning. He even picks if he wants to wear his white shoes or his brown shoes (even his sandals but it's been too cold to wear those). He helps wash his hair and put his conditioner in.

Pretty soon he's going to be doing everything himself. I do miss helping him get dressed and getting ready. On Saturday morning he came out of the bathroom with his shirt soaked and a wet head and his brush in his hand and said he combed his hair all by himself (we wet the brush if he has hair sticking up). Now...if we could only get this potty training down.

Number 3

A couple days ago we were finishing supper and Daddy asked me if I could clean Little Man up because he had to do a Number 2 (TMI, sorry). I said that was fine and Little Man looked at me and said he had to do a Number 3.

Mother's Day

Well tomorrow is Mother's Day and today is Birthmother's day.

I will be honest I don't get into Mother's Day too much. Sure I appreciate the thought behind it and a day all to myself but honestly what if I wanted June 6th off and be able to sleep in. Why does it have to be a specific day? A mom's job is not easy at all. The hardest job is being a stay at home mom and those of us working mom's don't have it easy either.

I'm honestly not looking forward to when Daddy starts working again. It's nice not having to worry about laundry, cooking supper (most nights), getting Little Man ready in the morning, and most of the cleaning. I did spend a good chunk of today cleaning the bathrooms (Daddy forgets they exist and do need to be cleaned too), vacuuming, dusting and I did a couple loads of laundry (which reminds me, I still need to make our bed as I washed the sheets today). Boy am I exhausted!

OH! And I spent the day hard core potty training Little Man. We sat in the kitchen (with him naked) this morning and played with play-doh. He had a couple accidents but did really well. He would say he peed (even though he didn't), run to the bathroom and pee. He even went poopy in the potty!! I call that success! But as soon as that pullup was on (he needed it for his nap) it was back to the same old 'I went pee in my pull up) all afternoon. I seriously wonder if I should just tell him they don't make pull ups anymore and go from there. Advice would be greatly appreciated. It's frustrating when it seems like he knows what to do but once that pull up in is on he knows he can pee in it and so he does.

Although it gave me a very good reason to disinfect my kitchen floor. :)